Valerie Frankel, LMFT
Collaborative Divorce Coach
Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms
—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.
- Viktor E. Frankl
I am passionate about working with people who are grieving (death and non-death loss), divorcing and learning to co-parent. My practice is completely focused on these specific areas, either as a therapist, co-parenting counselor, or collaborative divorce coach.
Finding meaning in life events and learning to live with them is essential to me. I enjoy the newness of getting to know each client and creating a relationship and environment where change can occur.
In addition to my private practice, I am a part-time faculty member at Sacramento State University and teaching in the Counselor Education Department. I love helping graduate students learn about the counseling profession and grow into the counselors they want to be.
Often people who are grieving a death or non-death loss can feel alone in the world. I am interested in walking with people along the journey of their unique grief experience and ultimately landing in a place of living with the loss in a meaningful way. I feel it's an honor to witness my client's inner world of their loss. We work together to ride the waves of grief and work through their experience.
Divorce can be a transition that requires adjusting to as a new life emerges. There are often feelings of loss and grief that are important to make room for as the logistics of a divorce are being decided. Therapy during a divorce or separation can be a safe container for the feelings of this life changing time. It's also a place that a couple can discuss how they plan to divorce and communicate this to their children.
As parents raise children together in two households, establishing a foundation of co-parenting together positively impacts the well-being of their kids. I feel passionate about helping parents learn to co-parent with respect. In turn, this gives their children a healthy experience and definition of divorce. Co-parenting counseling is done with both parents together in each session.
Collaborative Divorce Coach
Collaborative Divorce is a team approach to divorcing, where each client has their own attorney and divorce coach and we (along with a financial specialist and, if needed, a child specialist) work together to create a divorce that both clients can live with. I love being a part of this process as it truly works and keeps families out of the adversarial nature of going to court. For more information about Collaborative Divorce, visit Sacramento Collaborative Divorce Group.
Mediation can be another way for clients who are divorcing to have more control of the outcome. I am trained to work with divorcing or separating parents to create a parenting plan for raising their children together. Parenting plans provides the foundation for co-parenting in two households. As a neutral party, I work with parents to decide what the guidelines are for raising their children, and this plan becomes an important part of their divorce agreement.